I say this a lot, but it’s one of the most important things to know about me, I’m from the south. If there is one thing we Southerner’s love it’s or proverbial sayings, we have a saying for everything! I remember being at a family get-together and overhearing my parents talking about how a certain child wasn’t the biological child of my uncle, yet looked just like him. To which my Dad replied, “If you feed ’em long enough, they’ll look just like you.” What did he mean you ask? He meant that if you take care of a child and provide a loving home for that child then he will be your child in every way that really matters. I say this because when you have children you already know that it’s your responsibility to feed them with natural food, but you also have to feed them spiritually.
More and more I find myself purposely avoiding the news and basically all negativity. We try very hard to keep all the negative, hateful, joy draining, and vibe killing imagines out of our home. The bible says that we have to guard our hearts with all diligence because out of them flow the issues of life. (proverbs 4:23) I think as parents your natural instinct is to protect your children, and keep them safe no matter what. And yet, we have to be more vigilant with guarding their heart from the evils of this world that have already corrupted so many.
I’ve talked about how important it is to speak positive words over our children and creating the right environment for growth. This time I want to talk about how important it is to feed our families spiritually so that we can make sure our children look like copies of us, instead of a pop-star in a onesie shaking her money maker on a stage before millions of people. We have to be sure to feed the positive and pure. Whatever you feed will grow, if you feed the negative it will surely grow, like an invasive weed! I’m not saying that we should all go hide our heads in the sand because I know that’s not realistic. We can’t avoid every single bit of bad news. There will be things that upset us, people will offend us because that’s apart of life and we know this.
However, we can’t unpack and stay in that offended, angry, and negative place. The way we feel affects the atmosphere and environment of our home. The attitude that we project decides the tone of our household, and if we spew bitterness, and hate that’s what our children will consume. I personally know people who can sour the mood as soon as they walk into the room. It’s like they suck all the life and joy right out the second they open their mouth.(try not to name names) I have to admit that I kind of sigh, inwardly not out loud, when I talk to certain older family members because I know that their going to make me feel bad about something. I eventually came to the point where I said I have to limit my conversations with these people/things because they are feeding the negative. I don’t like walking around angry for no reason, I like feeling happy and excited about a new day. Nevertheless, if we don’t break away from the news reports, the gossipers, or whatever is draining us the most we will always have a dark cloud over us.
Our children are a reflection of us, they say what they hear us say(sometimes it’s not us). We have to be mindful of the fact that even when we’re not trying to teach them things, their learning from us anyway. The amount of time that we have to lay the proper foundation, and by foundation I mean core values, what they believe in etc., is very small. When our children hit their teenage years some character traits have already been cemented and etched in stone. We’ve all heard our children playing and use a word or phrase and immediately thought, “uh-oh, they got that from me/him.” We have to change the world one day at a time, and the best place to start is in the privacy of our own homes. We have to face the facts that our children represent our family and our values to the whole world. It’s a true statement that if we feed them they will grow, and you better believe they’re going to look just like us!
As the Mother, a lot of the praise or blame will fall on to us that just seems to be the way it’s always been. Of course we are not responsible for every unacceptable thing that our child does, but how often do you hear someone say, “Where’s his Father?” If we see a crying or misbehaving child our first instinct is to ask after the Mother not the Father. It does seem kind of one-sided but, that’s why the children always thank their Mother…so that makes up for everything right? (you can laugh as loud as you like, I won’t tell.)
Finally, keeping all these things in mind, let’s remember where we’re getting the food from that’s feeding our families. We don’t have to reinvent the wheel, just follow the blueprint! Being more conscience of the things that we say and the attitude that we have as well as the contents of our heart doesn’t mean that we won’t have bad days. We’re going to have times when we fail, and don’t ever want to get out of bed again. You know what, that’s okay too, have a bad day…maybe a bad month,but we can’t let our bad days, and our fears hold us hostage. We can’t allow all the mean and crazy out there in the world to creep into our homes and raise our children. We have to take control of the images that we bring into the hearts and minds of our family. We have to feed our families with good food because the ingredients matter.
I know this was a bit heavy but let’s share. What do you guys do to drown out the voices of the Nay Sayers. How do you beat back all the evil and make your home a happy place? I think that sharing is how we build each other up and become better.