You might be familiar with the title, it’s what we call someone who is very negative. You might even use the phrase, “Vibe Killer.” I typically don’t use either of theses phrases, but I feel like confessing to you all today. I am so mean to myself and the things that I say to myself during self talk, I would never say to my own daughter…or anyone else for that matter.
Ask yourself this question, “Do you have a problem with negative self talk?”
What kind of things do you say to yourself when your jeans won’t button, or if your “fat jeans,” are snug? What about when you make a mistake or forget something very important, what names do you call yourself? I can tell you that the names that I call myself I would absolutely never call one of my friends or even a stranger! I will be the first to admit that this is abusive behavior that I practice towards myself and I’m trying to stop.
The thing that I often ask myself whenever I catch myself being mean to myself is, “Why?” The answer is not as simple as the question though, because a simple I don’t know just doesn’t seem to satisfy.
I believe that the moment that I made myself more aware of the hurtful and negative words that I was speaking over my life it became a problem that I am determined to solve. I really started looking at it from the perspective of, “would I want those words to manifest in my life?” The answer was no of course not.
I remember ten years ago thinking I was fat, so I called myself fat all the time. However, now when I see pictures of me I think, “why on earth did I call myself fat then? I’m bigger now then I was back then! Then I thought, what if I gained weight because that’s what I spoke over my life everyday, so subconsciously, I stopped even trying to maintain a healthy weight? I really truly believe that words have an effect on us, they can build us up or tear us down.
One of the most impactful things that I did to combat all the negative words and mean self talk, was to write down scriptures that pronounce God’s love or positive things about me on a piece of paper and put them on my mirror. By hanging them on my mirror, I never forget to say them everyday. I also pump positivity into my mind, and heart as often as I can throughout the day. I listen to positive music, I speak positive words over my day, and make a huge effort to chase away negative thoughts that otherwise might turn into negative words.
I guess you could say that I have resolved to stop the negative self talk. I set some goals to help me overcome negative self talk and I’m making progress everyday. I want to hear what you would do to combat negative self talk? Do you have any suggestions that you’d like to share? Leave them in the comment section! Thanks for stopping by!